Having spent over 20 years in ministry I've learned that when people's dreams are crushed, or when they've gone through heartbreak, the worst thing you can do is be a cavalier pied piper with an upbeat song. It's cold to sing songs to a troubled heart.
Don't misunderstand, the Scriptures are not saying you must withhold songs of hope. People depend upon hope, for the absence of hope can cause someone to follow radically harmful paths.
Be sure to offer hope, just be careful how you package it. When people are heartbroken the last thing they need is the guilt that comes from a person telling them "It's all good. Just praise The Lord anyway."
Like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, or like vinegar on soda, is he who sings songs to a troubled heart.
- Proverbs 25:20 -
What I've learned is that deep despair causes questions, and those questions, when pain is too fresh for praise, tend to drown out songs of joy.
What I found that people remember most in times of heartache is that you were there. Your greatest way to help them is the glorious simplicity of your presence, reminding them that God hasn't left them stranded.
Jason Cruise is a published author and speaker. He is the host of Spring Chronicles on Sportsman Channel.
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