The Single Greatest Reason Men Experience Moral Failure

The Single Greatest Reason Men Experience Moral Failure

Men experience moral failure in mere seconds, but the act of failing takes a long, long time to achieve in my experience. Every time I sit across from a man whose world is imploding, it takes but a few moments of listening to his story until it becomes clear as to why he’s in such a state of shame. I’ve never met a man who experienced moral failure that was devoid of friends. We’ve all got friends. Friendship has forever been a shallow concept to me. Friends are everywhere. Friends are all around you. They “like” your Facebook page, they “retweet” posts on your Twitter feed. Friends play golf with you, grab lunch, or go on a weekend duck hunt. That’s what friends do. Friends are important. Friends will make life more fun for you. What friends will not do for you, however, is be there for you when life starts to get demanding. I mean, really, really demanding. Friendship has always been a shallow concept for me. What matters to me, what provides strength to my soul, is not friendship but brotherhood. Brothers run into the flaming mess of a man’s life while friends are running for the exit door to get out of the heat. So, what is the single greatest reason men experience moral failure? It’s not an addiction to porn. It’s not a lust for power within their company. It’s not a burning desire to embezzle funds so they can get rich. That may be where it ends, but that’s not where failure begins. Moral failure in the life of a man always starts with...
Outdoor Ministry: When Nobody Understands Your Calling

Outdoor Ministry: When Nobody Understands Your Calling

I’ve been working with churches and denominations for almost 15 years now in outdoor ministry strategies to help churches and leaders reach hunters. Outdoor ministry can be some of the most rewarding work you’ll ever encounter, and it can be equally as frustrating. Yes, I’ve had many men reach out to me at live events where I’m speaking, through an email, or a phone call, and tell me that they are crushed because God has called them to engage the journey of ministry within their church by reaching hunters, but that they are meeting heavy resistance from membership, and sometimes leadership, with their new found passion for outdoor ministry. I can safely say that it doesn’t happen often, but I cannot truthfully say it never happens. The real issue comes down to how you can respond. Here’s what I’ve learned over the years. Remember: Your Call Is Not Dependent Upon Anyone. In the end, it doesn’t matter one tiny bit if anyone supports you. You must be faithful. However, I can promise you, life is much more easy, and certainly more fun, when you have support from those around you. You need people, and you don’t want to live the life of an isolationist prophet. I’ve seen guys do that, and they almost always take on a martyr complex. Be sure you are called to this thing, and if you are, move forward. Outdoor Ministry Starts With Your Pastor. Over 90% of the pastors I meet do not hunt. That’s why I wrote the free eBook Being A Pastor To A Hunter because it helps pastors get inside the...
A Lie About Life As A Pastor

A Lie About Life As A Pastor

My formative years in ministry were nothing short of anointed in terms of the freshness of God’s call on my life, yet looking back on those years, I realize I was told a lie about what life would be like as a pastor. No, those that told it to me weren’t habitual liars. In fact, they weren’t liars at all. They were good men. They were righteous men. They certainly did not believe they were lying to me, the young gun going into ministry. No, I found that they believed the lie themselves, for the lie shaped how they operated in ministry. I began my work at seminary and I quickly found that the lie lived on my seminary campus, too. My theological education shaped my journey significantly, and I’m incredibly thankful for it. That doesn’t mean, though, that lies don’t exist at seminary. We all know better. I heard the lie from pastor after pastor, and professor after professor. I didn’t believe the lie then, and I surely do not believe it now after spending over 2 decades of living out my call from God. The lie was this: you cannot have close friends within the church you serve. How The Lie Started. The very first pastor that ever mentored me in ministry believed the lie. I’m sure the lie was handed down to him, for my first pastor wasn’t a liar. He had been shaped by the lie, however, and it showed. He didn’t really let any man into his life. After going to college and looking back on my time with him, I realized that many...
Trophy Whitetail Bucks And Their Identity.

Trophy Whitetail Bucks And Their Identity.

Imagine your most prized possession, the one thing that if you lost it all, this is the one thing you would want to hold on to, materially speaking. That’s going to look different for all of us. To be honest, I don’t know how to answer my own dilema. I’d have to think that one through for a while. A whitetail buck doesn’t get that option. Every single year, he loses what appears to be the single most defining feature that makes him who he is: his antlers. I’ve hunted some amazing places. I’ll never forget seeing the largest whitetail I’ve ever encountered. We were filming a project at Tecomate Ranch in Texas. Thirty minutes into the very first hunt a buck stepped into the sendero we were overlooking. He was a 185 inch perfect 10 pointer with a 29” spread. He looked like a mule deer. In fact, he looked like a big mule deer. There’s some deception going on here if you can read between the lines, or perhaps I should say, if you can look past the antlers. Yes, that deer is a trophy. In fact, he’s a trophy among trophies, but his antlers are not what make him a trophy. What makes him a trophy is what’s going on inside of him. In the core of his DNA, there are blood vessels, proteins, guanines, and all sorts of stuff I obviously know nothing about, that make him who he is at the present. What’s going on inside him is what shows up outside his body. What’s going on inside him shows up outside of him,...
3 Ways Churches Fail With Technology At Wild Game Dinners

3 Ways Churches Fail With Technology At Wild Game Dinners

I see so many failures at wild game dinners that would be so easy to fix. The failure often comes in the form of technology and presentation. Churches spend thousands upon thousands of dollars to host their wild game dinners because wild game dinners are a super way to grow their outdoor ministry in an effort to reach hunters. Think it through however: what’s the point of putting in all the money, sweat, and muscle if you fail with how you present the message? The failures I see most at wild game dinners tend to land in the category of technology - especially in terms of audio and video blunders that could easily be avoided. Remember this and never let it escape you when planning an outdoor ministry event or a series of wild game dinners: the gospel message has little effect if people literally cannot hear it, or if they are so distracted by technology glitches that they lose focus during the presentation. I'll take that one step further and say the message has little effect if people fight to see it. Men are visual. 10,000 words have a tough time competing with a well produced 3 minute video aimed at a man's soul. Yet if that man cannot see the video because it’s so distorted, then the church let him down. Here are 3 key ways you can win with technology: Never Cut Corners With Equipment I realize your church has a budget. However, the smallest church around can rent a sound system for a single day, and even negotiate a sound engineer fee to have someone...