Lies We Believe About Confession.

Lies We Believe About Confession.

After two decades of ministry I've learned something about every one of us walking the planet: we all have things going on inside us that need to be treated in order to be healed. We all know that healing, in many cases, requires surgery. After two decades of ministry I’ve learned something about soul surgery: surgery is done in the light, for it is never done in the dark. Something else I’ve learned about all of us who carry around things inside of us, things that often require soul surgery, is that every person has a deep need to keep those things, those problematic spiritual tumors, hidden from view. The motives are simple: you do not want people knowing about a struggle with unresolved anger. You worry what those closest to you would think if they only knew that you viewed pornography occasionally. You are terrified about what another person might think of you if they knew that you secretly fought wars with materialism. Confession And Darkness Forever Want To Co-exist.  So, you keep it in the dark. Where it seems like it’s safe. The problem is, that’s a lie, and you’re believing a lie to make you think that you can live with it safely in the dark. When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away. -  Psalm 32:3 - David said his body wasted away from lack of confession. I’ve seen it myself. Silence kills the heart. When you keep things in the dark, the enemy can lie to you all the more, because darkness distorts reality. The reality is that everybody has something...
6 Proven Approaches To Promote A Wild Game Dinner

6 Proven Approaches To Promote A Wild Game Dinner

Over the years I’ve noticed that churches often struggle with how to effectively promote their wild game dinner. Wild game dinners that have been around for several years have built a following, but my experience is that after about 5 years, your wild game dinner is going to plateau. A wild game dinner is a super way to build your outdoor ministry and sportsman outreach efforts. Every great movement needs rebranding from time to time; and that applies to what you do with your outdoor ministry efforts, especially when it comes to re-energizing your wild game dinner with how you tell your story in the community. Here are 6 strategies and 1 foundational truth you can employ to boost your reach. The 1 Foundational Truth: Motivation Is Always Better Than Information The greatest mistake that most churches make is they use websites, flyers, radio ads, news paper print ads, and church bulletins to tell about the “event.” Events do not motivate people. Stories do. Whatever you do, tell a story. Talk about changed lives, not about what time the event is happening. People give you 5 seconds at the most before they check out of your promotional piece (flyer, ad, commercial, etc) – if you use that precious time to talk about the date, the place, etc – you’ve done nothing but waste money. Your website is where they go to get information. Your promotional strategies are about motivation. 6 Strategies To Promote Your Wild Game Dinner Emotional Print Media. If you do choose to print ads in the local paper, use emotions, not data about the event. Print...
Facebook Friends and Fruitless Discussion

Facebook Friends and Fruitless Discussion

Facebook friends, and all social media platforms like Twitter, YouTube and the host of millions more out there today, have brought value to our lives. I've reconnected with too many high school buddies than I care to count, and that's a good thing no doubt. However, after jumping into someone else's rant about a topic, have you ever felt like you just wasted 15 minutes of your life when you should have just left it alone? I have. More times than I care to count. The Scriptures say, "But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith. For some men, straying from these things, have turned aside to fruitless discussion …” 1 Timothy 1:6 ​Facebook Friends And Exchange Of IdeasSocial media is just that: social. It’s supposed to be about a free exchange of life, and sometimes, it is an exchange of ideas. There's also times when I've seen my Facebook Friends walk away from a "friendship" because I didn't agree.  I’ve learned something about social media in terms of dealing with people with an entirely different world-view than what I hold. Often I’ll feel compelled to dispel a myth, correct an inaccuracy in a political opinion, that type of thing. You know, because I'm an authority, even if in my own mind. What I’ve discovered is that in most cases where I disagree, my rebuttal was often time wasted, for it never ends well. Why Do We Find Ourselves Frustrated With Facebook Friends?  I think the answer to that is simple: most of them aren't friends at...
Promise Keepers Decline And What Churches Can Learn

Promise Keepers Decline And What Churches Can Learn

Promise Keepers isn’t dead. In fact, I hope it lasts until Jesus comes. However, few things do. The truth is, I believe Promise Keepers will go down as one of the Top 5 Movements of God in the 20th century. No matter where Promise Keepers is on the spectrum of sustainability, one thing nobody can argue is that PK is not what it used to be. And, Christians globally shouldn’t see that as a failure. My gosh, could anybody honestly say PK was or is a failure? No way. That being said, the brutal facts are this: things change. Our country isn’t even the same America as it was on the day that Coach McCartney hosted the first Promise Keepers event. Since God called me into full-time ministry in 1991, I’ve had my eyes and my heart attached to creating ways men could connect with the God that made them. Promise Keepers as a movement was coming onto the landscape with booming volume about the time I entered ministry. I’ve personally attended many PK events over the years, and as time went on, it was easy to see that Promise Keepers was struggling. From a men’s ministry standpoint, I believe there’s a lot to be learned from PK’s rise and fall; and by fall, I don’t mean fall to the point of no longer in existence, but rather that it’s had significant decline which can be super teaching points if we look closely. My main filter for this conversation is this: what can the Church and men’s ministry leaders everywhere learn from what has happened with Promise Keepers? God Used...
Time Management: A Subtle Deception I Fell For In Learning To Set Goals.

Time Management: A Subtle Deception I Fell For In Learning To Set Goals.

For years there was a subtle deception I fell for in regards to searching for time management and goal setting. Recently I’ve begun to calendar out my day two weeks ahead of time. I know, believe me I know, it sounds like a stupid, even slightly comical, pursuit in futility: except that it’s working. Every time I’ve ever read article about time management tips and goal setting, it seemed about a common trait found in many successful people in terms of planning their goals, and then scheduling the daily progress toward those goals, was that they planned their day weeks in advance. My excuse was always found its justification somewhere in the idea that, “I’m just not built that way.” Knowing that we all have different personalities, I knew that I could not compare my life to another man’s operational prowess. Time management that works for you, and goal setting plans, too, are both as unique as the person they apply to. However, I felt that, at least for starting out, was that the goal was to form a plan, no matter how little or how much. Actually having a plan became the goal.   So, I decided to try it. I carved out a 90 day vision of what I felt led to accomplish, and then broke it down day by day, appointment by appointment. Let me just tell you: a mere 6 days into the experiment I was depressed. I was depressed over my lazy nature that kept me from doing this 15 years ago.For you see, my brother, 6 days into this journey I felt as if I’d...